So I’m the thermometer holder for batch #2
And that’s the thing about people who mean everything they say. They think everyone else does too. —
The Kite Runner (Khaled Hosseini)
Yup. It gets frustrating.
This is timely.
I’ve always been a “say what you mean and mean what you say” kind of person. I’m not a bullshitter, and I avoid people who can’t be straight with me. I’m not abrasive. I’m not rude. I’m just straightforward and honest, and I expect the same in return. I could go on and on about how this helps my marriage, my rapport with my students, my family, etc. but I’m sure you can figure it out.
The reason this is so timely, is that the hubs and are on the sidelines watching our friends’ marriage fall apart because of this. This lack of honesty. No, no one’s cheating or doing anything like that. It’s honestly because one is saying things like, “Go ahead, it’s fine.” Then later they say, “HOW COULD YOU GO WHEN I NEEDED YOU HERE?!”
So here’s my public service announcement. Ladies and gentleman, no one can read your mind. Not even your beloved soulmate. But, if you tell them what you want, I bet they’ll do their best to give it to you. I bet they’ll stay home when you ask them to. But if you tell them to go, they’re going to believe that you’re being honest with them, and they’re going to go. I don’t mean go forever, I just mean go out with their friends or whatever they want to do. They’re going to believe you. So tell them the fucking truth. If you want them to stay home because you don’t feel well, say so. If you’re really unhappy about the path in life you’re going down (TOGETHER), you should probably say something. If you’ve had second thoughts about your life plan, YOU SHOULD PROBABLY SAY SOMETHING. Because your partner is going to be skipping along happily until further notice. And frankly, it’s unfair to them to expect them to read your mind, no matter how romantic that may seem.(via everyfiredies)
(Source: wordsthat-speak, via everyfiredies)
christmas is so much worse as you get older it’s like “what do you want this year?” “a sense of purpose”
"a career" "financial security" "a sex life" "tuition for grad school" "alcohol" "a nap" "socks would be nice"
socks would always be nice.
Still going strong.
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